If You’re Dealing with Complicated Grief, Seek First Your Therapist, Not Your Pastor

Ernest Becker proposes that depressed individuals (specifically those depressed from death) suffer both doubt in their faith and doubt their value within their worldview.  In other words, grieving people often doubt God and they doubt His purpose for them. Kenneth Doka suggests that “one of the most significant tasks in grief is to reconstruct faith […]

23 Spiritualized Comfort Cliches to Avoid When a Child Dies

The following post was originally a guest post on Michelle Van Loon’s blog, “Pilgrim’s Road Trip.” The author of the post, who wishes to remain anonymous, wrote the following message to me via facebook: Last June we accepted a foster placement of twin girls who were four months old. We’ve been foster parents for almost 7 years, but nothing […]

Did Jesus Die of a Broken Heart?

Here’s some psychological, biblical and historical evidence to provide some support that Jesus died from the “broken heart syndrome” (technically a psychosomatic phenomena called “stress-induced cardiomyopathy“). Psychological Studies Older couples that have been married for many years suffer intense grief when their spouse suddenly dies.  Some times the husband and wife are so close that when the […]

Worshiping God through Our Sorrow

Few Christians are familiar with the term “orthopathos.” We’re familiar with orthodoxy, which is “thinking like Jesus”.  And many of us hope to be “orthodox.” Some of us have heard of the term orthopraxy, which is “acting like Jesus”. But orthopathos, which means “feeling the feelings of Jesus” is an idea that few of us are […]