You don’t have to walk away from your dead! — The idea used to be that a healthy grieving process ended in detachment. Freud called it decathexis, the removal of emotional and mental energy. Some people call it by other names, like: Moving on Getting over it Letting go And the most popular term: Closure […]
So, guys. You know what’s okay to do . . . even though it’s hard and slightly weird? It’s okay to tell yourself that you’re doing a good job. — Life is hard. Death is hard. Grief is hard. Death care is hard. Getting out of bed, getting dressed, helping the kids get ready for […]
Good people are everywhere. And bad people are everywhere. That mix is in our families, politics . . . hell, it’s even in our own hearts, AND that mixture of good and bad is in the church. — I’m not Catholic. I serve Catholics on a semi-regular basis, and they seriously have THE best funeral […]
Get ready for a new age-y and weird thought that isn’t nearly as new age-y and weird as it sounds. — The energy of our dead surround us in everything we do, especially during the holidays. — I know, whenever we talk about “energy” it’s super ambiguous and unquantifiable, and it sounds like something a […]
It’s rare that I share a funeral related story and include the deceased’s actual name. Except for my personal family, I almost always change the names of those involved for the sake of their privacy. I’m making an exception for Edith “Edie” Norton and Brian Wilson. — The world goes around because there are people […]