You don’t have to walk away from your dead! — The idea used to be that a healthy grieving process ended in detachment. Freud called it decathexis, the removal of emotional and mental energy. Some people call it by other names, like: Moving on Getting over it Letting go And the most popular term: Closure […]
Get ready for a new age-y and weird thought that isn’t nearly as new age-y and weird as it sounds. — The energy of our dead surround us in everything we do, especially during the holidays. — I know, whenever we talk about “energy” it’s super ambiguous and unquantifiable, and it sounds like something a […]
Do you talk to your dead? — Soon after my maternal grandfather died in 2006, I was sitting with my grandmother — his widow— and she told me something that I thought was weird, maybe even a little dangerous. She told me that she constantly talks to Pop-pop. Everyday, even every hour. — At […]
We’re living cemeteries. We’re full of dead people, and their stories live on in our bodies. – The cemetery that I’m walking in holds my Quaker ancestors, who came over in the early 1700s to escape persecution and find some respite in William Penn’s “Holy Experiment.” – I’m the result of a myriad of my […]
There’s a problem that I want to address. And that problem is dishonorable funerals. Somewhere along the way, the funeral industry has convinced us (deathcare workers as well), that the ONLY honorable funeral is the traditional funeral (i.e., embalming, casket, full burial and everything that goes with it). But let me tell you this: if […]