1. Strict adherence to The Funeral Rule. Obv. 2. Guide families to choose financially responsible funerals that won’t make them “funeral poor”. 3. Educate families in alternative options even if those options are detrimental to the bottom line. 4. Always choose transparency and disclosure over secrecy and intention omission. 5. Make sure every choice the […]
They say, “She’s at rest.” Their bald mother lays with distorted breast. Breasts that fed Removed. Arms that held Motionless. Her warm smile Her voice Her love Locked in the vault of the soul. Her children’s liminality has ended. Today, they are only parents They can throw away the adult diapers The myriad of pills and […]
“I can’t, I can’t!” screams the 30 year old mother of two with trembling body and clouded mind. Her grandmother, once familiar, now foreign. Hands cold, lips shut. Eyes closed with glue. A body that once embodied love now fear. Once comfort, now pain. Her parents urge her again . . . “I don’t want […]
I write this as I’m listening to a mother frantically scream, “That’s my baby!!!” as she views the body of her deceased 24 year old son for the first time since his death. She’s kicking screaming stomping weeping. I write this as my own therapy … it’s hard to listen to. It must be harder […]
We’ve screwed up. Committed sacrilege. Tri- State crematory. 334 uncremated bodies left to the elements and the animals making us look like monsters. Two mummified babies found in the ceiling tiles of a funeral home. Jessica Mitford. The FTC. The Funeral Rule. The price gouging. The emotional exploitation. “I’m sorry” isn’t enough. Even we can’t bury these dead […]