You Haven’t Failed
Friends, you’re not a failure! — When your loved one dies, you haven’t failed them. — When you haven’t practiced the best self care because death has consumed you, you’re not a failure. — When you go back to work and you’re still grieving just as hard as ever, you’re not a failure. — When […]
Working with my depression
I’ve never been 100% sure that I belong in this business. The ideal model of a funeral director is a paragon of sanguinity and stability. I’m neither. — I have depression. Whether it’s an illness, or due to the work I do, or a product of both, it’s bad enough that two different anti-depressants at […]
They died from a broken heart
They died from broken hearts. — To the skeptic, “died from a broken heart” is a romanticized line from a fictional fairytale. It’s impossible, they might say, to determine if emotional grief was THE cause of death, which is why — they’d say— a doctor will never write “broken heart” on a person’s death certificate. […]
FUNERAL SERVICE SUPPORT GROUP
Hey, guys. If you’re a part of funeral service and you’ve happened upon some embalmer/funeral director groups on Facebook, you’ve probably found that the content can be helpful as it relates to practice, but the emotional/practical/human support is rarely helpful. In fact, it’s often hurtful. As in many human service professions, there’s a stigma connected […]